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The Truth About Pro-lifers

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The hypocrisy of the Pro-Life movement is quite clear, yet its proponents are oblivious. With their willful ignorance and self-righteous prejudice, they are condemning thousands of women and children to lives of unnecessary poverty and suffering.

Saying that a person who is Pro-Choice is pro-abortion is intentionally disingenuous. Girls aren’t going around getting pregnant just so they can go to a local Planned Parenthood and have an abortion. No one thinks abortion is a good thing, but sometimes it’s the best choice.

I became pregnant when I was 26, but didn’t know until after my sort of boyfriend decided he wanted to break up. I was four months along before I even knew I was pregnant and I burst into tears when the doctor told me. I never thought about an abortion, not because of “moral” or religious reasons, but because I was able and willing to take on the responsibility of a child, husband or no. There were three people in my life at the time who felt that I should get an abortion: my boss, a friend who’d had several in her past, and the man I had been seeing. My boss tried to convince me that I was throwing my life away, which I found insulting. My friend thought I should “get it taken care of” without telling anyone. The “father” agreed with his dad and brother that “it was a catastrophe” and that I “should get an abortion tomorrow.”

This was in the early ’90s when single mothers were being vilified in the news and by Bush Senior. The ex would leave newspaper clippings on my doorstep that blamed single mothers for everything, from illiteracy, to poverty, to drug use. I resented the hell out of all of them.

I chose not to end my pregnancy and have been very grateful for the wonderful son I now have. I’m grateful that I’m not living with the pain and regret of having had an abortion or giving up my child for adoption, and I don’t see myself ever urging someone else to end a pregnancy. That being said, I believe it is obscenely misogynistic and cruel to take away a woman’s right to make that choice for herself. How could anyone tell a 17-year-old girl that she has no choice, whether or not she is ready – emotionally, mentally, or financially – to care for another human being for the next 18+ years? Add to that the condemnation that either decision will bring down on her. Talk about damned if you do, damned if you don’t.

To those self-righteous, good people who know what’s best for everyone: how dare you compel a woman to bring a child into this world and then turn your backs on them both. It is shameful and heartless.


I used this cartoon without permission, but I’ve asked Nick Anderson if I can have permission.

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