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Hand Over The Baby

Richard Land is a form of repugnant humanity that makes even Rush Limbaugh and Ann Coulter seem compassionate. Only a true believer — in the form of a white, overprivileged, outrageously self-righteous, conservative Southern Baptist conservative Christian male — could be so insulated and heartless. His chosen target is an often vilified and incredibly diverse minority: single mothers.

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According to Stephen D. Foster, Jr. at Addicting Info:

In a November 23rd article published on The Christian Post, Land urges single mothers across the nation to stop being selfish and hand their kids over to good Christian parents so they can be raised properly, the way he thinks God intended.“Keeping the baby is almost never preferable to allowing a baby to be adopted into a solid, faithful Christian home,” Land claims. “A single mother who keeps her baby is quite often denying that baby the father that God wants for that baby, and every baby, to have. Furthermore, in most circumstances, keeping the baby circumscribes and forecloses both the mother’s and the baby’s economic futures in tragic and unfortunate ways. If the mother is doing what is best for her baby (one of the defining marks of maternal love), she will part with her baby so that it will have the future God intended for him or her to have… Adoption allows the mother to give her child both a mother and a father who will love and cherish the child.”

I don’t think that every creature of Land’s ilk is intentionally trotted out as a polarizing tool, but I am just cynical enough to believe that, throughout the country, there are many Christians who are in wholehearted agreement with Land. Childless couples, bitter and envious at the thought of a worthless stranger getting knocked up when it is they who truly deserve such a gift from God.

Why is it that no one EVER asks where the guys got off to? Single mothers aren’t all single by choice. “Fathers” bail all the time, but it’s the women who take the brunt of Christian and conservative abuse. It is too much to hope that those people could, for one moment, contemplate what it might be like to be a young woman who, rather than aborting an unwanted pregnancy (because that’s inhuman), chooses to raise her child, with or without the help of the father (or the government). That would require empathy, compassion, and a choice not to judge women they don’t even know – qualities that conservative Christians were, apparently, born without.

So at the very least, rather than encouraging mothers to give up their babies, why doesn’t Richard Land encourage deadbeat dads to man up.

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Bikini or Burka: Pick One!

textI read Frank’s article, The Veil in the Western World, which he wrote in response to a Huffington Post piece by Jennifer Izaakson.

“The Veil Issue” is a quagmire of racial distrust, religious intolerance, perceived misogyny, and a clash of cultures.

Anyone concerned with women’s rights, the abuse of women under the guise of religious traditions, and the objectification/ownership of women, will see a woman wearing a veil as an affront. Well-meaning people are projecting their own indignation onto what they perceive to be male-dominated and dogma-fueled oppression. Others see the veil as a defiant refusal to assimilate into a new culture or a silent condemnation for the society that they should be embracing. Still others may feel that the veil will antagonize racists in the community and put the wearers’ safety at risk.

And to some extent, every one of those opinions is true, which unfortunately can turn an article of clothing into a flying banner of contention.

Personally, when I see women who cover their hair or shroud their entire bodies, I feel sorry for them. I see them as having embraced religious or cultural practices that, to my mind, diminish them, not only as women, but as human beings. Regardless of my own ideas of what constitutes appropriate public attire, the fact that a woman’s choice of dress, from a miniskirt to a burka, is seen as tacit complicity with a society that will label her a whore or victim is disturbing.

To my mind, if a person’s culture or religion does not cause physical or mental harm to themselves or others, they should be left alone. However, violence and cruelty under the guise of religious freedom or cultural tolerance should never be accepted by the rest of society.

So, unless you’re sitting next to Lady Gaga and she’s wearing a razor ribbon dress, don’t fret about what a woman’s wearing. Your time would be better spent considering the validity of your own prejudices.

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The Truth About Pro-lifers

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The hypocrisy of the Pro-Life movement is quite clear, yet its proponents are oblivious. With their willful ignorance and self-righteous prejudice, they are condemning thousands of women and children to lives of unnecessary poverty and suffering.

Saying that a person who is Pro-Choice is pro-abortion is intentionally disingenuous. Girls aren’t going around getting pregnant just so they can go to a local Planned Parenthood and have an abortion. No one thinks abortion is a good thing, but sometimes it’s the best choice.

I became pregnant when I was 26, but didn’t know until after my sort of boyfriend decided he wanted to break up. I was four months along before I even knew I was pregnant and I burst into tears when the doctor told me. I never thought about an abortion, not because of “moral” or religious reasons, but because I was able and willing to take on the responsibility of a child, husband or no. There were three people in my life at the time who felt that I should get an abortion: my boss, a friend who’d had several in her past, and the man I had been seeing. My boss tried to convince me that I was throwing my life away, which I found insulting. My friend thought I should “get it taken care of” without telling anyone. The “father” agreed with his dad and brother that “it was a catastrophe” and that I “should get an abortion tomorrow.”

This was in the early ’90s when single mothers were being vilified in the news and by Bush Senior. The ex would leave newspaper clippings on my doorstep that blamed single mothers for everything, from illiteracy, to poverty, to drug use. I resented the hell out of all of them.

I chose not to end my pregnancy and have been very grateful for the wonderful son I now have. I’m grateful that I’m not living with the pain and regret of having had an abortion or giving up my child for adoption, and I don’t see myself ever urging someone else to end a pregnancy. That being said, I believe it is obscenely misogynistic and cruel to take away a woman’s right to make that choice for herself. How could anyone tell a 17-year-old girl that she has no choice, whether or not she is ready – emotionally, mentally, or financially – to care for another human being for the next 18+ years? Add to that the condemnation that either decision will bring down on her. Talk about damned if you do, damned if you don’t.

To those self-righteous, good people who know what’s best for everyone: how dare you compel a woman to bring a child into this world and then turn your backs on them both. It is shameful and heartless.


I used this cartoon without permission, but I’ve asked Nick Anderson if I can have permission.

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